Love Your Purpose

Did you know there are 8 types of love?

1. Philia is a deep friendship love.
2. Ludus is a playful love.
3. Storge is familial love (family relationships).
4. Eros is a passionate love.
5. Mania is possessive and obsessive love.
6. Pragma is an enduring love.
7. Philautia is self-love, and lastly,
8. Agape is an unconditional love.
   To learn more about these types follow the link at the end of the post for a guide on the types!

What’s love got to do with [it] purpose?

Sorry if you got an earworm just now.

Why did this topic start with love?

Because everything started in love!

I believe when God created the world and humanity, that everything operates through love. Meaning when we actively pursue our passions we are operating from love.

Think of a delightful person who has done all they could do during the span of their life. They followed their talents and giftings and shared what they had with others. They encaptivated the core components of the 8 love types. (Mania love is okay when pushed into your passion. For example, running. You need to love yourself and have a passion for running to keep doing it. Eventually, this becomes obsessive but in your favor.)

God created us for a relationship with him. To learn more about him and understand. To do this, we need to understand love and its components.

Stuck is recalibrated with love

When you are feeling stuck it could be a multitude of reasons such as:

• The weather is not sunshine and blue happy sky.
• You realize keeping up with the … [insert name of whoever you are comparing lifestyle to] is making you feel stuck.
• You are doing what expectation demands.

Recalibrate with the 8 love types

• Example 1:
  The weather is not sunshine and blue happy sky. Sure productivity levels may be better with blue skies, but the weather is currently cloud or fog or snow and you are stuck with that on this day (or even season). You cannot control the weather but you can control you.
  
  Give yourself some grace and philautia (self-love) do something to liven up your spirits and then continue with the tasks before you.
• Example 2:
  You realize keeping up with the … [insert name of whoever you are comparing lifestyle to] is making you feel stuck. Firstly – CONGRATULATIONS for REALIZING – becoming aware of – this place of stuckedness. Well done. The first stage is to realize it.
  
  Often the deep or real issue of trying to keep up with the Jones’ is seeded in jealousy. Without referring to self-love again – which you should do because you need to accept who are and be comfortable with that.

Lean into your contacts. The Joneses sound like they want to brag about their fantastic lifestyle – good for them. You know there are cracks under all that façade, right?

What you need is company. Philia is deep friendship love – who are your contacts? Who’s in your home team or your tribe? Connect with them! Even if you have no close friends (telephone calls still exist just saying.) There’s also a closer friendship group – it is called the family. This love type is storge or familial love.

Sweet friendship refreshes the soul.

Proverbs 27:9

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their hard work. If either should fall, one can pick up the other. But how miserable are those who fall and don’t have a companion to help them up!

Ecclesiastes 4:9 – 10 [CEB]

• Example 3
  You are doing what expectation demands. No part of this statement sounds like love.
  
  Love you for you, and your skills, and how you see the world, and celebrate how far you’ve come, and stand victorious that you’ve realized you are stuck and you are here reading ways to overcome!

Stand in Purpose, Act in Love

Review your skills, your passions, and your purpose through the lens of love:

Let’s say your passion is carpentry and helping others. You may feel the call to build more houses for those in dire situations.

• Philia: a deep friendship love
  Connecting with others to form friendships.
  Reach out to friends in the carpentry field to find your place, your niche, and how to give your support.

• Ludus: a playful love
  Gotta love what you do. When you do – it is playful and easy!
• Storge: familial love (family relationships).
  Get some family support for your purpose. When things get tough they will be your cheerleader squad.
• Eros: passionate love.
  Be so involved in your passion that you absolutely love, love, love working on it!
• Mania: possessive and obsessive love.
  You love working on the passion to the point it is obsessive, and it gives you the drive to push on and complete the house/s.
• Pragma: an enduring love.
  By this point, you know you are in it for the overall investment. Perhaps you found a way to monetize this, but still you are doing what you love and soon others will be in better places.
• Philautia: self-love.
  You take care of yourself, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially through all seasons so that you can keep pushing and moving forwards.
• Agape: unconditional love.
  You’ve reached the point where your passion is your life, and you are happy to know how love has found you at each bend and each moment.

Love Yourself

Note down the 8 love types and write your passions, skills, and interests.

How can you invest in love to fuel your purpose?

Love Types by MindBodyGreen Relationships written by Sarah Regan (Dec 29, 2022).
8 Types Of Love + How To Find Out Which One You Have | mindbodygreen